Kink coaching

Coaching is helping people to help themselves . It doesn't matter whether you want to develop yourself further, solve a problem or deal better with a certain feeling or situation.

 

Kink Coach has a special focus on sexuality and the kinky identity . Of course, this includes special preferences and kinks. However, their development is often influenced by other areas, such as family, relationships, everyday life, culture, work or personal experiences. That's why I take a holistic approach that integrates all areas.

 

The coach is there for you!

what is

Kink coaching?

Coaching is the development of your (kinky) personality with the support of a professional. It shows that you are actively dealing with your emotional world and personality, and that you are interested in developing yourself further.

 

Self-optimization is a good thing. But that doesn't mean that you were bad before! It's also not about bending or adapting to the other. It's about you moving forward as it feels right for you!

 

The coach helps you to understand yourself better, to make your wishes and goals clear, to let the unconscious and repressed become visible and to find suitable measures together with him to develop yourself where you want to go .

 

This requires a lot of experience and in-depth knowledge , because the variety of topics is enormous. Everyone has their own ideas, wishes and problems and what is unproblematic for one person feels wrong or even sick to another.

When do I need kink coaching?

Some people or couples just come to me wanting more variety. Others have specific questions and problems that can be solved together. But it can also just be a feeling , such as pronounced restlessness, restlessness or a feeling of discomfort about something that you actually like. Some even have emotional outbursts such as states of fear, (self) doubt, (including sexual) listlessness or depressive behavior. And even physical characteristics such as potency problems, exhaustion or pain are possible.

Examples of solo coaching :

- Prescription of your own kink

- Self-discovery and reflection 

- Preparing for the coming out

- Development of basic skills and fundamentals

- Bondage experience as a means of letting go

- Further development with the professional

- Security and technology

- Partner selection & search

Examples of (also polyamore)  Couple coaching :

- How do I come out to the (vanilla) partner

- More variety in the relationship

- Make long-distance relationships happy

- Polyamorous relationships and jealousy

- Resolve conflicts and disputes

- rebuild trust

- Open relationships

- Acquire new skills together

What does such a coaching look like?

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Before we start we should get to know each other first. For this we do an initial meeting. In doing so, we jointly determine the next steps on our common path.  

Depending on what the trigger is, you can quickly answer a few questions and, for example, do suitable training, or you can approach the actual problem over several sessions, concretise it and then work out a suitable solution. Each participant decides for himself how far he wants to go and to what extent he wants to open up.

Coaching can be carried out live via Zoom or on site. For special topics, this can also be done outside the home or in a corresponding studio. For long-term support, I also offer WhatsApp or Telegram support.  

Kink and fetish are always seen as normal elements of our personality during my coaching. Other areas that you want to discuss with me are also not condemned by me. This open approach, where you don't have to mince your words, helps you to get to the actual problems more quickly and in a more targeted manner. Discretion is a matter of course.

Kink coaching is not a medical treatment or therapy. It is helping people to help themselves. It is an adequate way to better understand yourself or yourself, the present and the past and to work on a future that is positive for everyone involved.

 

A coach is also not omniscient and cannot solve every problem. Each situation will be examined individually to determine whether and how one can best help. It can therefore also be the case that inquiries have to be rejected or that you have to refer to colleagues with a different focus at the given point.

 

A good fit between the coach and the coachee / s is essential and a prerequisite for the success of the coaching. That is why we always offer an independent introductory meeting. Then both sides should decide whether they want to start the coaching relationship together.

What can coaching not do?

What qualifies me for this?

I have been a consultant since 2010 and since 2013 also in the field of kink and sexuality. Although there is no specific training for Kink Coaching (yet), I can draw from a broad portfolio of coaching techniques and BDSM topics, which I have combined to form new concepts, or which I have developed and tested from scratch.

 

I have taught myself BDSM in 20 years of practical experience, where I have been working in the field for 13 years and I have been working full-time with the topic for 5 years. I not only learned in the field of BDSM, but also dared to think outside the box in other disciplines, such as medicine or psychology. Therefore I can claim to have a good overview of the complex aspects of a kinky lifestyle.

 

Well-founded experiences as a kinkster and BDSM player as well as a consultant and coach are rare. I have been combining these for over 5 years and have accordingly gained a lot of specific experience and developed new concepts and tools for this. But the special thing about my coaching approach is that I don't just work through the concepts, but specifically address each person and their special situation. The solutions achieved are therefore not only well-founded, but also individually tailored to the respective customer.

 

How do you start

Everything starts with your personal message to me!

Please send me an email to: info@gay-BDSM.club

with the keyword "Kink Coaching"

Please write in your mail:

  • your name

  • place of residence

  • Phone number

  • when I can best reach you by phone

  • Briefly some information about your concern

 

I will then send you a few suggested dates for our initial meeting or I will contact you by phone if there are still questions about your concern.